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Information for Parents of Newly Admitted Loyola Students

Congratulations on your child's admission to Loyola University Maryland! The staff of the Counseling Center would like to be among the first to welcome you to our community. 

As the parent of a future Greyhound, we hope that you will find Loyola to be an inspiring, welcoming, and diverse environment that offers innumerable opportunities for your child's personal and academic growth, including through our Counseling Center.

It is our mission to serve as an essential resource to all students for their academic experiences and out-of-class learning opportunities. We aim to do this in two primary ways:

By choosing to study at Loyola, your child is participating in a tradition of learning that has enabled students to exceed their dreams and goals. We invite any admitted student (or parent/guardian) to call us at 410-617-CARE (2273). We would be happy to provide you and your family with any additional information that would be helpful as you finalize your college decision. Changes You Might See in Your ChildMost parents report that the experience of sending a child to college is one filled with anticipation, anxiety, confusion, and hope. By move-in day the first year, many changes have already begun to show. The student becomes more independent, gains competence in new areas, and learns to develop healthy peer relationships.The college years are a time for students to continue maturing and learning how to manage themselves and their lives in general. What does that mean for you as a parent? Here are some of the messages you might hear:

Public Health Focus

Our prevention efforts seek to enhance the emotional and interpersonal well-being of Loyola students through educational programming on campus and promoting community awareness of issues that relate to positive mental health. We strive to meet the needs of various cultural groups including Loyola students of diverse beliefs and values, through outreach and prevention.

Our experienced staff meet with students in classrooms and residence halls, and through student organizations to discuss such topics as improving study habits and time management, meditation and relaxation skills, stress management, conflict resolution, how to help a friend in need, grief and loss, and body image. We are eager to meet the needs of students, and, upon request, will plan specific programs of interest for certain organizations or groups.

Clinical Services

College is very exciting, but it can also be stressful for your student. Classes, tests, work, family, and friends can place competing demands on their time and energy. It’s not surprising that many students find themselves, at times, feeling anxious or overwhelmed.

In fact, about one-third of Loyola students take advantage of services at the Counseling Center before they graduate. They aren’t alone in their feelings, and they don’t have to be alone in working through them.

We offer free, confidential services, including weekly or biweekly sessions with a professional counselor. Although most students complete individual counseling in 1-15 sessions, those students whose circumstances require longer-term support can be connected to therapists in the community. 

If your child is currently in counseling or has been in counseling previously, we encourage you to contact us before you arrive at Loyola so we may talk through your specific needs and how we can be of most assistance in working with your child or connecting them to the best possible resources.

Many students take advantage of our opportunities to join a group. These weekly sessions, which often continue throughout the academic year, bring together five to eight students with shared concerns. 

Led by one or two counselors, group sessions last 60-90 minutes and offer opportunities to talk confidentially about your concerns, share them with others who have similar challenges, receive support from group members and counselors, and learn alternative ways of looking at personal problems. 

“Help! / Don’t Help!”

It is sometimes frustrating for parents to go through the growth process with their students, not knowing how to be helpful and receiving messages which are unclear or incomplete. 

Students may add to the uncertainty by changing rapidly, rejecting your help one day and actively seeking it the next. We've often heard about parents in great distress because their student predicted a poor outcome on an exam, but forgot to provide an update when the results were better than expected.

As a parent, it can be difficult to know when to help, when to step back, and/or how worried to get. Usually, a parent's best guideline is to provide a steady, supportive home base while recognizing that there will be ups and downs in students' needs and expectations. 

Follow the leads of the students and encourage them to work through a problem, with you acting as the coach or cheerleader. Help them balance their thoughts and emotions to make the best decisions. Let them know that you respect their right to make a decision and that you will serve as an advisor when asked. 

Remind yourself to notice and appreciate new skills they develop; students often want their families to recognize their progress toward becoming adults. And, remember to take care of yourself in this "Help!"/"Don't help!" process that can cause a lot of confusion and exhaustion.

"So, whose decision is it anyway?"

Most parents have a high investment in their student's decisions. Problems arise, however, when parents are more invested than students. 

It can be hard to lessen involvement in a student's decisions out of fear that the student won't assume responsibility. The irony is that students often don't step up to the task of being responsible until parents’ step back. After all, it's easier to ignore problems when someone else is worrying about them! 

Taking a step back as a parent is uncomfortable, and at times frightening, because there is no guarantee that students will assume responsibility or that they will make the same decision that you would. The fear that the student is not accepting responsibility in the interim makes most parents lose a lot of sleep. 

There is, however, no need to walk away disinterested or frustrated. Consider providing a concerned voice– "We're interested in what you decide, but we know you have to sort this out for yourself,” and remind yourself that you are helping by working with your student on developing their own decision-making skills.

"College is different than I thought it would be"

For many students, coming to Loyola means finding out what college and life are really about. It means that they might learn that being an English major is more than just writing poetry and that psychology isn't necessarily the major for all people who like to help others. 

It also means learning how to study and how often to study. Academic expectations are more rigorous than in high school. Students accustomed to receiving A's and B's have to work much harder to earn the top grades in college. 

They also have to figure out when they should be studying and how to motivate themselves to do so. Ultimately, they learn when to ask for help and when to resolve issues on their own.

Coming face-to-face with new challenges is common in college. Finding support in dealing with these challenges is equally important. 

The College has many resources to address students' needs, including counseling, academic advisement, health education, among others. In their quest for independence, students sometimes assume that being an adult means it isn't necessary to ask questions. 

Parents can remind students that asking questions and using available resources reflect maturity, and that doing these things does not detract from their autonomy or growth as an adult. At the same time, parents and other family members can serve key roles in providing the support needed. 

Students tell us that it is important to know that their parents will offer consistent support as they venture out to meet the world. The influential role which parents have in the lives of students continues through college and beyond.

"I’m back!"

The first visit home from college is usually an interesting one for the entire family. Students may return home thinking that their newly found independence will be recognized and appreciated by the family. In contrast, parents and siblings continue to live in their usual style and generally expect that the established "house rules" will still apply.

Parents can anticipate that their expectations will differ from those held by students during those first visits home. 

Instead of creating a situation from which an argument will ensue, seeking a compromise that honors both the family's needs and the growing independence of the student might be an appropriate goal. If your child is commuting to school from home, consider the ways in which his or her new level of responsibility and independence will be acknowledged in the home.

Describing the many different experiences that students and their families will have during college is impossible because every family is different. The professional counselors at the Counseling Center would be happy to talk with you about your specific situation. Please contact us at (410) 617-2273.

Contact Us

Humanities, Room 150
One flight up the turret entrance
Phone: 410-617-CARE (2273)

Call to schedule an appointment
Monday - Friday, 8:30 a.m. - 5 p.m.


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